Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Three T: Our Perfect Examples




There used to be a time when the waiting for baseball season began when football season ended. Seeing as how football season ended for San Diego in December 2016, I have been not-so-patiently waiting to hear the words “Play Ball!” ever since.

This year brings with it even more anticipation than most, as my son Trevor opens his Little League season on March 10th. If ever a boy was born ready to play baseball, it’s him.
For years we have been talking about guys I’ve gotten to know in the game; there was a time when I could look at a list of living Hall of Famers and point out the fact I had met every one of them, not to mention countless All Stars, Gold Glove winners and members of every playoff team for over a decade.
Yet when we talk baseball, my thoughts and words go back to three specific men; men I was blessed to get to know on and off the field and as outstanding they were as ballplayers, they were even greater men off the field.
The history of the San Diego Padres may pale in comparison to that of the Yankees and their legends but for that matter, what teams history compares to Ruth & Gehrig; Mantle & Maris; and of course, Joltin’ Joe DiMaggio. No matter, the three men I speak of most are part of our history, and it’s no less important to my sons and I then the lore of any other team out there.

Tim, Tony and Trevor.

Just those three names can bring forth thousands of memories for any Padre fan. Maybe a first autograph or running into one of them at the grocery store during the offseason. Or a game winning hit; a smile and wave during batting practice or one of them walking into an AC/DC concert, smiling and waving at everyone yet changing his path to come straight to you and give you hug. (Okay, I admit that last one was my own memory but you get my drift.)

Before I sit down and write a piece, I ask myself a few questions. The first one I ask is “What do I want to accomplish with this?” The second one is “Exactly who am I writing this for?” And the last one is “Why don’t you just stop thinking and let it flow?”

As I scanned my extensive files of personal and collective memories, the answers to the first two questions were one in the same. I am writing this for two people. One, for those whose memory banks may be even fuller than mine. Two, for the unfortunate souls who may not know those names. If you read this and you don’t know these names, it is my hope you have at least some understanding of not only how these men excelled on the ballfield but in life itself.
Here they are, the Three T’s; San Diego’s Perfect Example:


Tim Flannery

Growing up, I thought Tim Flannery was a cool, laid back kind of guy. This was evidenced during the first game I attended at The Murph during the Summer of 1983. We were playing the Phillies that day and someone fouled a rocket into the home dugout. While the bench nearly cleared out, Timmy nonchalantly stuck his hand out and barehanded the ball as if he was sitting on the beach reaching into the cooler.

Turns out I was only half right; though cool and laid back is definitely part of his persona, Tim Flannery was as fiery a competitor you will ever see. My brother used to say “Give me eight Tim Flannery’s, and we’ll be playing ball in October.” Years later I updated that quote, saying “Give me 25 guys led by Tim Flannery, and you’ll be the last team standing in October.” Three World Series Rings in five seasons for the Giants and Tim sent every one of those runs home. In all my years as a fan and employee, I only really knew Tim as a player and coach. Over the past few years I have gotten to know him as a person; as a husband, as a father and now a grandfather. As you will not find a player with more fire than Tim Flannery, you will also not find a human being with a bigger heart. Tim runs a charity called the Love Harder Foundation and Loving Harder is not just a name, it’s what he does and who he is.

I was blessed to watch him as a player for seven seasons and had a fly-on-the-wall vantage to observe him as a coach for five seasons and though you may find examples that equal his, you will not find one that surpasses it…



Tony Gwynn

Really, what can be said that hasn’t already been said at least 3,141 times? Everyone has a favorite memory, a favorite stat of Mr. Padre. The hard part is choosing just one. The nice part about that is, you don’t have to choose just one. Personally, my favorite thing about Tony, the Ballplayer is his career average against the Maddux-Glavine-Smoltz powerhouse. I mean, he absolutely OWNED what is likely the greatest 1-2-3 punch in baseball history. Then there’s his five Gold Gloves, which he often said was what he was proudest of. He was once called a subpar outfielder but let me tell you, “subpar” outfielders don’t win a Gold Glove, let alone five.

My son was born four years after Tony retired, but he knows the numbers and the impact Tony had on all of us. Yet when we talk numbers, we don’t talk a whole lot about the specifics. In the grand scheme of things, numbers are not all that important. What is important is how he achieved those numbers, and that’s the biggest point I try and hammer home to my sons on the ballfield, in the classroom and everywhere else. Tony was always working. I used to get to the stadium early to assist the ticket office and there wasn’t a day he wasn’t already there. It wouldn’t surprise me to find out they just gave him a key to the place, since they’d save a few bucks having to pay overtime to the guy who would have to wait until Tony left after a game to lock up.

It was a sad day indeed in Padreville when Tony was called up to the Big Lineup in the Sky. It still hurts and always will. But the hurt is constantly soothed by the unending gratitude I have for the example Tony set for all of us…


Trevor Hoffman

I must admit, I was not all that excited the first time I heard the name Trevor Hoffman and if there’s no fans who wouldn’t say the same, at least some of them are lying. Trevor came to the Padres during the infamous Fire Sale; traded for none other than 1992 Triple Crown candidate Gary Sheffield. We were somewhat shielded from the Fire Sale as we lived in a small mountain town in New Mexico during that time. But that didn’t keep us from hearing news of the trade and looking back, I’ve never been prouder to be wrong in my life.

If there ever was a player who could rival Tony Gwynn in Padres lore, it’s Hoffy. On those long, 15 hour workdays at the Murph, I would often see Trevor out jogging in the parking lot or in the outfield. Showing up before noon for a night game and lord knows how early for a day game. He would run his bullpen mates to the ground, literally, with his everyday routine. Some pitchers may have threw harder, some may have had better movement on the ball but no one out-prepared him. The man was and still is a workhorse.

Years ago, Jerry Lee Lewis was asked about Chuck Berry during an interview. The Killer replied “He’s the King of Rock & Roll, my mama even said that!” One legend paying due respect, even the ultimate respect to another. That’s one of the surefire ways to gauge the body of work a man produces. Ask around MLB and you will hear nothing but praise for #51. I thought about adding some quotes here, but just go ahead and do it yourself if you’re so inclined. You won’t be disappointed.

Over the years I probably got to know Trevor on a personal level more than any other ballplayer. My years with the Pad Squad were times where my name was synonymous with Trevor Time. He even retired from baseball just a few short weeks after I hung up my jersey and I’ve since joked with him that he made the decision because I wouldn't around to ride his coattails anymore. When thousands of us gathered at Petco Park to Celebrate the Life of Tony Gwynn I had the opportunity to talk with the Hoffman family. His sons, now taller than me, looked at me like they were still the little kids who used to follow me around the Stadium and Ballpark. His wife Tracy said “Hey! We were just talking about you." And wouldn’t you know it, I felt like yet again like that 8-year old kid meeting his hero for the first time. You never forget your heroes and sometimes, your heroes never forget you.

I’ve shared the following words many times over the years, the most cherished moment came when I shared them with Trevor’s mom, Mikki.;

I didn’t name my firstborn after my all time favorite ballplayer, I didn’t name him after the best closer in National League history; I named my son after Trevor Hoffman the son, the husband, the father, the brother and the teammate. My son is named Trevor after Trevor Hoffman the man…

So there you have it. I would dare you to find three better examples anywhere; baseball, football, music. Don’t waste your time because you won’t. You might find those who rival, even equal them in their respective fields of endeavor but none will surpass. And you know what’s funny? Of all the accolades I send their way, all the thanks and all the reasons I look up to them and use their examples to lead my family, baseball doesn’t really have that much to do with it. That just happens to be how we met…